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Therefore, even though self-conscious, I made an effort to bring my personality out (the best version of myself), and the way I overcame my shyness was by using: small talk, engaging in chit-chat or being talkative (if we connected on the same subject). However, when I was a teenager, I read in an article, in a Cosmopolitan magazine, that it is hard for a shy person to get on in life or being successful: as there is the tendency to be over-looked or even be taken-for-granted by others. When young, I was shy and felt awkward socially. So, to give a little context on this topic of small talk and wellbeing from my own personal experience. Even offering our name creates an exchange that will inevitably lead to a response – it helps with connections if you know what your name means! The importance results in being earnest. Working on the premise that small talk is, by its nature, based on inconsequential things – like the weather! On the other hand, how the weekend went!Īlternatively, how our day is going – we can start from there. It is hard for most of us to move through unknown social waters with ease, and making small talk can really help us. Small talk is important because it helps with our confidence when we need it most. Moreover, given that such a large part of communication is non-verbal, we are noticing non-verbal clues at this point of first contact. Small talk or chit chat is a way to assess the emotional mood, gauge how others are and, importantly, their wellbeing generally, and to put others at ease or even at a deeper level have the other person confide in us their feelings or mindset. Thereat, small talk helps us to test the mood of the social environment we find ourselves in at the time. These gestures themselves will thereby promote wellbeing but only if they come from the heart. As sincerity and spontaneity have to be the origin of our gestures and attitudes of cordiality. Being happy for other people’s success.Īnd all these attitudes have the common denominator of ‘greatness of heart’.Boosting and encouraging the people around them.

Trying to make other people’s lives bearable.Making an effort to overcome shyness or their own insecurities in order to relate to others.Emphasising the positive aspects of events.Expressing themselves in a friendly tone, speaking in a positive and stimulating way.Taking an interest in others, what they do, what they say and what they feel.Receiving and welcoming people with dignity.

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A friendly, cordial person is characterised by a series of qualities such as: It therefore has nothing to do with pretending or a mere external formalism.

The affectionate response that emerges naturally from being friendly and having sincerity, is the joy of living that ends up spilling over into other people. Aristotle explained that cordiality is giving what you are, as opposed to liberality, which is giving what you have. This virtue allows us to strike up and establish good relations with others.Ĭordiality comes from a strong and sensitive heart it the usual way of behaving from people who are sincere and warm. Cordiality is a synonym for kindness and friendliness. And, the reasons behind such behaviour, as to involve the heart, is by making it inseparable from intention and grace. It is all about being cordial with one another that connections are maintained.įor, ‘Cordial’ comes from the word for heart (cor, cordis), it refers to a person who has the virtue of strengthening your heart or in other words a warm-hearted person. Even now, small talk can be helpful as a way to share our experiences and connect virtually when we cannot do so in person. Therefore being proficient in small-talk, and engaging in chit-chat is very much about facilitating communication with the aim of ensuring the virtue of wellbeing is evident, and for that, a person has to be talkative.Īs it is all too easy, to dismiss social conversation (aka chit-chat) as the type of small talk that is inconsequential, when in fact, it’s an essential part of day-to-day communication, which can add real value to our relationships and including with our customers. We might say that they ensure the common good. When we talk about social virtues, we are talking about virtues that also play the role of facilitating a service to others, to society. It may seem trivial, but a little ‘inconsequential’ chit-chat can pave the way for deeper conversation and connection.

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